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by Mary Winter
Several December holidays deal with either birth or rebirth. Whether it is the return (rebirth) of the sun or the birth of a god, or a god-like personage, December proves the old adage that it's the darkest before the dawn. My partner calls this time of year the "dark half" of the year. Unlike me, he hates the cold and the snow, the reminders that there has to be the harsh reality of winter in order for the beautiful flowers and bountiful harvests of the rest of the year. This time of reflection can be difficult for some people, especially if someone isn't accustomed to looking into the dark recesses of their psyche and analyzing what he or she finds. |
However, sacred sexuality requires such introspections. Although sex for sex's sake can be as simple as the joining of two bodies, when it comes to performing such acts with a spiritual intention all of a sudden our minds get involved too. Our emotions. Our baggage. Our past, present, and future. All of it becomes intertwined with the desire to use the body's ecstasy to move someone to a higher realm. It gets literally and figuratively messy.
When you combine this intense personal work with a time of year that is more hectic than all the others, well, there's a chance for a meltdown, and I'm not just talking about ways to get rid of snow. So what can you do to prevent that from happening?
First off, understand that any sacred sexuality work you do right now will be affected. For women, our biggest sexual organ is our brain, and if we simply don't feel "up" to anything, we don't. We may be tired from cooking or shopping or wrapping presents. Children, anxious for the holidays and the goodies they bring, may have been especially trying. If you and your special someone has plans that don't quite work out, don't let it stress you out. There will always be another time.
Secondly, take time for yourself. If this means your sacred sexuality work involves your favorite b.o.b. (Battery operated boyfriend) or simply nothing but some extra time in the shower with the massaging shower head, that's okay too. No one is asking you to run marathons here. Slow and steady is just fine, and sometimes quite divine.
Third, if you're so inclined this time of year, focus on your non-sexual spirituality. What does the season mean to you? Are you appreciative and thankful for the gifts you do receive and not bitter about the ones you didn't? Be happy with what you have and what you've gained over the course of the year. And if you're not as far along as you'd like, well, don't be upset with that either. Enjoy the season, even if it's spent indoors bundled up against the cold.
Sacred sexuality occurs year round. However, during the holidays it can take on an added dimension. Enjoy the season and enjoy yourself. You'll be glad you did.
Bio
Mary Winter prides herself on being a new age girl (just like the song