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by Mary Winter
The New Year is just around the corner and this is the time when people start thinking about New Year's Resolutions. Losing weight, improving finances, taking more time for the family, getting fit, all of these are routine goals made for the upcoming year. Yet, few of us think about our sexuality as something about which we need to make a resolution. Sure, there are those who complain that they're not getting enough sex. And I suppose conversely there are those who believe that they're getting too much. But making a resolution about your sex life simply isn't perceived as being done. |
However, there are several good reasons to make determined goals when it comes to your sex life. The question is, what kind of goals to make.
The first goal that comes to mind is quantity. In a busy household, especially where both individuals have jobs, it can be difficult to schedule the time for sex, let alone try to have a spontaneous moment. Days or weeks could go by until someone gets "the urge" and the couple tries to finagle sex in the middle of all their other obligations. Whenever you want to add more of something into your life, whether it's more frequent workouts, more time with the kids, or whatever, sometimes it has to be scheduled. Set a date. Mark it on the calendar. Put it in your PDA. Whatever it takes to ensure that this time is YOUR time.
Of course you can't have quantity without discussing quantity. Perhaps, like the time issue, the couple wants to have better sex. Whether that means longer in duration, more intense orgasms, or simply more meaningful, the quality of the sex is just as important as the quantity. So perhaps this year's resolution is to spend more time in foreplay. Maybe studying techniques to strengthen orgasms, or even just to try new positions.
The point is, though, that there is so much more to sex than the amount and the perception of how "good" it was. So don't just settle for a resolution for more or better sex. Be specific. What if you and your partner read an erotic novella together once a month, then discuss it, or perhaps, better yet, act out some of your favorite parts? Maybe you can make suggestions, a new sexual position, toy, or place each month. Perhaps even you initiate sex instead of waiting for your partner.
Sacred sexuality is as much about your sexuality as it is the divine. Sometimes, we need to simply get back to basics. Good, old fashioned sex. How that happens, where or when, is up to you. And perhaps, 2008 will be the year that you resolve to make it happen!
Bio
Mary Winter prides herself on being a new age girl (just like the song