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by Mary Winter
We've reached the time of year when the winter blahs really start to set in. The holidays are over. It's several months until another holiday gives us a day off. And the weather, at least in my part of the country, gets cold and dreary. It can be really hard to work on your spirituality during this time of year, though those of us who follow a more nature-oriented path believe that this hibernation time is when we think about what we accomplished and how we want to grow. It's a time for reflection. |
And this would be an appropriate time to reflect on our sexuality. However too much thinking can over-complicate things. And really, with February bringing us an entire day devoted to love, it may be that we're thinking about our sexuality too much. I know it becomes too easy to over-think a situation, to ponder and to analyze, to make plans, and then try to decide on a course of action.
So my suggestion is, reflect if you must, but simply go with the flow. Winter weather, at least in the upper Midwest, can be fickle at the best of times. One day it's balmy enough to melt snow. The next they're talking about wind chill advisories and frost bite. With struggling with schedules to get the kids back to school, winter colds, and job demands, it can seem as if our sexuality is as fickle as the weather right now. And don't forget about cold hands! Between frigid fingers and layers of clothing, it's no small wonder that our sexuality declines during these months (though watch the birth rates nine months after a blizzard).
The important lesson of this time of year is not to get stuck. Whether it's in our routines, our thought patterns or simply our vehicle on a snowy street-don't get stuck. Try something new. Maybe mentally kick yourself out of old patterns or enroll in a class to jumpstart your change.
When planning these activities, you might want to enlist the help of your partner. Perhaps these changes are things that you can make together. In addition, your partner may have ideas for particular courses that she or he wants to attend. Perhaps there is something that one, or both of you, have always wanted to try. Now is the time to do it.
Plan imaginary vacations. Find a fantasy and fulfill it. The options are endless for ways to beat the winter blues. The important thing is that you do it! Your spirituality and your sexuality will thank you.
Bio
Mary Winter prides herself on being a new age girl (just like the song